Put things right - quickly

"And don't sin by letting anger control you. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry 27 For anger gives a foothold to the devil."   Ephesians 4:26-27   NLT

We all give way to anger at times. However, if we allow the anger to remain, then we are setting ourselves up to be controlled by the devil. It's quite normal for people to become frustrated with each other, especially married couples. As Christians, our marriages should be dedicated to God and we walk, talk and pray together so that we are in fellowship. When anger comes along, the devil is ready to drive a wedge between us and we find it very difficult to even whisper to each other, let alone pray and walk in harmony. 

It is the same with Christian brothers and sisters. We can often dispute what the other is saying and, this can lead to strong words being uttered, and straightaway, there is division.

Paul encourages a speedy reconciliation; as I've said, we all become angry at times but that is the time that we need to take action. If we blurt words out without first thinking about the consequences, we can cause problems. Venting our anger is always a bad course to take. Alternatively, bottling things up within can be rather like a tin of coke that has been shaken. Leave the top on and it is ok, take it off and it spurts out all over the place. We need to be careful what we say or don't say.

When we have a problem with what someone has said, the best way to handle it is to speak with that person, but in a soft way, not with hostility. Note what Proverbs 15:1 says:

'A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare"

Raging words will only cause the listener to defend themselves and either, retaliate with equally raging words or gentle ones. It is difficult to argue with someone who only chooses to be gentle to your approach. So choose your words very carefully.

Whatever you do, do not let things fester overnight. Wherever it is possible, seek peace as early as possible otherwise, the devil has a habit of whispering things to further stir you up and, he can be very convincing. It is different with someone who doesn't live with you. You can always get away. But when it is your spouse, things can become very difficult if one partner will not give in and is intent to go for the throat. (This doesn't happen in Christian marriages, surely?) Oh yes it does and, because you live under the same roof, things can become like a war zone. 

Therefore, ensure that you settle disputes quickly and refuse the temptation to keep the argument going. Remember, Jesus is watching and listening but, He will not become involved. Is the high blood pressure, sleepless nights and bad language worth it? Put things right - quickly!

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