"let us hold fast our confession. 15 For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathise with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace , that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need." Hebrews 4:15-16 NKJV
When we have built defence mechanisms around us, how then, do we remove them so that we can move forward? As Christians, the best way is to involve Jesus in this complexed area. Lawrence J Crabb Jnr, a Christian Psychologist, said 'The basic personal need of each person is to regard himself as a worthwhile human being'. This means knowing that God will give you the confidence that you need. And William Glasser comments, 'Everyone aspires to have a happy, successful, pleasurable belief in himself.' Robert S McGee, author of The Search for Significance writes: 'Our hunger for self worth is God given and can only be satisfied by Him.' There we have it in a nutshell, we must turn to God in our time of need.
A very basic model to help with defence mechanisms is The ABC Theory. Quite simply this consists of a:
Situation. A Reaction A Response
The situation is what you are faced with. The reaction is how you handle this and how you attempt to resolve it. You are then left with the response and result. To every situation there will always be a reaction and it follows that this reaction will determine the response and result. Therefore, it is taking what your are struggling with and analysing what reaction you come up with. From there, as you know what the problem is you are struggling with, it is necessary to give this to God and ask Him to bring about a Godly response that will provide a satisfactory result.
You see, God cares very much for you. It matters to Him when you are struggling with issues and not flowing at the level He wants for you. Life has dealt you a bad hand but there is a way out and, forgetting the past and reaching forward to the things that are ahead, is the answer (Philippians 3:13). There is no other way if you want freedom. The past is the past, you cannot change it. However, there is life out there for living and God wants you to enjoy every moment of it.
We all have to start somewhere and, for you, perhaps the best place to start is with what the reason is for blocking things. The simple test above may help or if you know already, cast it over to Jesus and let go of it all.
Pray this:
Lord Jesus, You know the struggle that I have and the pain it has caused me over the years. I am ready to give it all to You, Lord. Please receive this and help me to make a brand new, problem free life with You. I ask in Jesus' name . Amen.
Copyright 2021 Grahame Howard.
Member of the National Association of Christian Ministers
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