Unwanted and Uncared for

"11I am scorned by all my enemies and despised by my neighbours — even my friends are afraid to come near me.When they see me on the street, they run the other way."

                                                                Psalm 31:11   NLT

There are many times when we feel so unwanted and rejected. This makes us feel uncared for and can lead us to feeling sorry for ourselves. Many things can make us feel this way, a broken marriage is one. If a partner leaves the marital home, the partner left behind can begin to feel this way. Gossip can begin around the vicinity of the home and, as always, gossip always comes up with the wrong conclusion. A person can receive a label and this label sticks like glue. Sometimes people don't want to know, some because they don't really know what to say, so, they say nothing. The loneliness and the pain of the broken relationship is placed all upon the partner who is left behind and they feel dirty and guilty about it all.

It is similar to when a person dies. If it is a husband or wife who has passed away, the partner who is coping with all of this turmoil may not have any help at all. There are expenses to make such as funerals; bills to pay; pensions to be changed in fact a mountain of paperwork that has to be completed. It has to be done and many times there is no-one to help out. Initially there may be the bereavement card, the well-meaning people offering their condolences and then the funeral to cope with. Family may help but, the help is nothing like the help they would have received from the person that has passed. It is just one wedge of sadness.

There are many steps that these people will go through. For the marital one, there is that hope that their partner may return. However, with a death there is no chance of that, it is final. As the grieving partner goes through all of these stages of grief, people who know them, sometimes even family, may begin to feel inadequate with this person crying all of the time and may not visit again. If they see them in the street, as David puts it, 'When they see me on the street, they run the other way.' There are many other ways that a person can feel rejection, one of these is if they have been in prison and when released find that there is no one who will want to be with them. They too feel unwanted and uncared for.

As morbid as this may sound; as you read through this, there are people around you who are feeling this way. Through one thing or another, they are lonely especially when they see people walking around hand in hand being happy. They long for this but never seem to find help. Are you one of these hurting, lonely people or do you know someone who is? Is there something you can do to help them - offer them a meal or a coffee or just visit for a chat. Could you invite them to church or to go somewhere they may like. Yes wisdom is needed when you mix with someone that you don't really know that well, but perhaps you could do something to help them

I suppose it is a case of 'What would Jesus do?' They need to know that there is life out there for living and it may be a time their life that they need to hear:

'But I am trusting you, O LORD saying, “You are my God!” My future is in your hands.'

                                                                                  Psalm 31:14-15

Loneliness is awful; these people need to know that someone cares for them.

Copyright 2025 Grahame Howard. 

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